I’ve just come across this insta-movement.. And whilst I don’t quite fit into the traditional sense of being my own boss in business, I feel like the hope of this message should reach further than that anyway..
“The hope…. That we can break open the myth of perfection and send a message to a generation of women that being in business doesn’t demand that you are flawless. It simply demands that you own who you are.”
A couple of old school-friends (💗) have said to me in the last {…6/7 months – where did that time go??! 😬} “you know most people only display the perfect side of their lives on social media, right?”
Right. They do. But life isn’t always perfect, sadly, and portraying that image can aid in sending out that negative message that sharing your emotions and the “tough times” is weak and childish. It’s not. You don’t know what kind of help and support lurks where, who else might be struggling, and what you say might just help one person. I don’t recall being ashamed after my first, or second breakdown last year, but I do recall not wanting anyone to know. It took a third [3rd time lucky, right?!] to open up. And I’m glad I did –

I am a geek! I am a wife, daughter, sister, niece, mother, friend, fighter. I can be intense; its passion. I can be exhausted; that can be depression. I run, I love, I eat, I sleep, I walk, I think, I overthink, I worry. I am happy, sad, anxious, shattered, grateful, thankful, lucky, loved. I am many things and no things. And I need to stop apologising for who I am. I need to learn to be proud of who I am. To love me. I need to stop trying too hard for waste of space people; old habits die hard, I guess.

Another young woman posted with her selfie “I was scared of the judgement of being scared of being judged. I’ve been the victim of some pretty hurtful gossiping and now I can’t escape the feeling that it is always happening.”

I know how she feels. And I stand with her as I stand with any other person who has been through hell and back, or goes through hell and back on a monthly/weekly/daily/hourly basis… People.. Stop being mean.. Stop spiteful gossiping and judging. Focus on you, live well, laugh often and be kind.

A few months ago I began to start taking charge of me again. I became my own boss again. I resigned from a workplace that stripped me of my confidence, left me mentally fragile, to the point that my physical health was becoming impacted.

I don’t for a second take for granted how bloody lucky I am that financially I could do this. Financially I have the support from my husband, and family to just leave. It took months of being told this, more months of putting myself through hell, but finally I have started to become my own boss. I still have bad days – but actually, this is probably the longest period of time I have managed to sustain a mostly sensible, normal recovery. I’ve made some mistakes – some more than others I’ll regret for the rest of my life – but I’m only human; I’m learning every day, and I’m winning more and more.

This message doesn’t just need to be promoted to a generation of women, but men too. Our children, our children’s children. Us. 

@fireandwindco #theimperfectboss 


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