Smile, Love and be Kind x

I just wanted to do a little post to try and help direct people to these awesome books, written and illustrated by fabulous people who’s worlds were shattered far too early in life, but who continued to somehow remain positive, strong, kind and inspirational throughout.

I’ve bought both books so far for friends children, as well as copies for our house. They are such sweet, lovely, well written books with the strong message of kindness being magical and so, so important solid throughout them. The illustrations are also all hand drawn by Jake. The books don’t fail to make you smile.These books are incredible – don’t just take my word for it! You can purchase Tara & Tyrone books (currently two with a third on the way) written by the incredible Emmy and brilliantly illustrated by Jake through Etsy, or if you want a message from Jake and Molly dog 🐢, email ejtandem@hotmail.com – I’ve added my own message (see below) to the children we’ve bought them for too. I can’t credit Emmy and Jake enough for their constant positivity and kindness – and no, I don’t know them personally so there is no friendship bias here!

You can also read more about Emmy and the journey #EJTandem
Dear Ollie, Ellen (and Thomas*),
I am so sorry I didn’t get you this book earlier to enable it to be signed once again by the inspirational author as well as the wonderful illustrator, and the lovely Molly dog πŸΆπŸ˜‰.
Emmy sadly passed away on 16.06.17. She fought hard against an impossible battle. But she inspired the world. She taught us life is too short. She taught us to live life to the fullest. And most importantly, she taught us to “smile, love and be kind”.

I love you forever, your (fairy) godmother xx

*not Thomas’ godmother!

Re-home Benji!

Benji 🐢

Meet Benji!

I volunteer dog walk for The Cinnamon Trust who help out with pets when their owners who are generally old/terminally ill can no longer look after them so well, aka: walk dogs. 

I used to walk Benji 🐢 on just a Monday, but found out this week the other two volunteers had stopped because he was too “boisterous”.

πŸ™„πŸ˜ πŸ˜«. He is not boisterous. 

He’s 2/3 years young and barely getting walked because his mum is terminally ill. He just wants to walk and smell and play with ALL the other dogs, because THAT’S WHAT DOGS DO. My heart absolutely broke πŸ’” for him when I realised this, so I’m going to now try and walk him every day until he is rehomed. Fortunately, he lives pretty close to us! Apparently he is exhausted and much better behaved once he gets home from a walk – proof you just need to keep your little fur babies knackered and their behaviour improves! His Mum’s two daughters are so grateful for me doing this simple thing to help whilst their Mum is very ill – I walk him with Rufus anyway – I have this real need to help others – and this is such a simple way of doing so. I don’t understand how you could stop helping when so badly needed.

Would anyone like Benji to join their family?!

Camera shy Benji!

“Challenges”

Last year, I decided to run a half marathon every month for charity. I ended up doing 3 extra and completing 15 half marathons in 12 months for Beat.

It’s pretty rare for me to admit I am proud of myself. But on this one occasion I’ll admit it – I’m proud I set myself a challenge and accomplished it. A challenge that not anyone can do, nor will do. 

I run a lot and love it but that didn’t make any part of the challenge any easier. I forked out a tonne of money paying for entry to 8 of the half marathons; the rest I ran alone which isn’t exactly easy to motivate yourself to do when it is freezing cold out: or the opposite; baking hot on the hottest day of the year. Or when your legs no longer want to move forward and your knees feel like they are about to give up on you. Or when you are struggling so much mentally you just want to curl into a ball and cry. Or when you just cannot be bothered any more.

The fact that I did this, and that others set themselves and accomplish incredible challenges on a daily basis only adds to my frustration of how ridiculous some of the stupid-ass “challenges” I see pop up on my Facebook feed on what feels like a regular basis.

Downing a pint of alcohol based disgustingly adapted drink is NOT a challenge: it is stupid and in some cases lost people their lives. Jolly good show all round. Not.

So this weeks “motherhood challenge” hit several nerves. Nominating one of your friends who you think is a great mother? Seriously? Here are my various reasons as to why this is ridiculous:

1) 9/10 people would probably support their friends no matter what – even the worst mothers will have some dumb “yes man” friend nominating them.

2) you’re a good mum? Well bloody done – that is the least I wold expect from someone making a choice to bring a child into the world: if you aren’t going to be a good mum then quit having sex/put a “cap” on it.

3) do you have absolutely any idea how heart wrenching it is for someone struggling to conceive? It is difficult enough being thrilled for friends falling pregnant what feels like left, right and centre, sometimes without even trying – I am thrilled, of course, but I WISH I had the opportunity to be a great mother – but as it turns out – I can’t conceive at the moment. Currently – who knows if I ever will.

I love seeing and hearing about my friends and family: their lives and pictures via social media. That’s why I use it. I do not need to see every one of your friends children pop up in my news feed too because they are “brilliant mothers” in the “motherhood challenge”.
For those that think this is bitter – delete me – bye. To my mother friends – of course you are great mothers – if I thought otherwise then I would report you to social services and I wouldn’t be your friend!

Can we just take some time out to think realistically here people?